My son loves to mix and match.I used to hate it.
His toys are all over and he loses things frequently.In fact, he will mix the transformers and ninjago and mutate and permutate.
I was looking at a Star Wars Lego Destroyer and reflecting.I may buy it but keep it in shape.My son may make and mix different parts with other toys.
In solution development, lets exercise creativity and mix and match.Samurai man is mix of superman and samurai and lego and blue tack.At least he wears his underwear inside.
Reflections of a father -Know your son and daughter
I am imperfect and rigid. Children need space and opportunities to explore, to make decisions and learn.
How well do we know our children? The non verbal cues of anger or peace? The favourite food and places?
Take time to play and talk to the children.They need your presence, not your presents.
Reflections of a Husband
In the past, wife stay at home and mind and guide the children.In the present, in Singapore, the wife goes to work but comes home to do household chores and guide the children.She is exhausted.
Many men goes to work.But they do not do household chores such as clearing the dishes,sweeping the floor,cooking or doing the laundry.
Many men goes to work.But they do not spend time playing with their kids or coaching them in schoolwork (which is a heavy and stressful component daily).
When children falls sick, the wife is emotionally and physically tired, looking after the children needs and managing the discomfort.The wife goes to work the next full day and the husband is fresh.
How can husbands love your wife in Singapore? Have we stepped up to our husband role?
Treasure or grass (bao hai si cao)
My son has been asking me to carry him for months.I tired easily now and I also want to train him to be independent.I have been refusing to carry him for months.
This morning he fell while running at home.I scolded him running at home.There are other incidents that I was angry with him.
We were shopping and the older sister informed me that Aaron was lost.I thought she was joking and asked her to return to mum.I tried to look for him but the search was futile.I became more anxious, and calling his name louder until I was almost shouting.Again..no success.
I asked my wife and maid to search while I take care of the youngest girl.I recalled from previous counselling the trauma of children who were lost and parents rebuked them in public.I told myself to calm down and prayed.
After 10 minutes, my wife managed to find my son. I controlled myself and told myself the poor boy is in distress and undergone the consequences.No point in escalating.
Aaron asked me to carry him when he was tired in Legoland.I agreed.
My wife is working and so am I.She shoulders multiple role and it is not easy for her to work and take care of home and children.
My daughter is sick and we are in clinic.Packed.I had taken leave earlier and had brought my 6 year old boy to kindetgarten and 2 year old daughter for a walk. It is not easy being a parent.
I hope more fathers spend more time with children and spouse.We may have to give up some leisure time and friendship, but this is neccessary for long term family health.
Mixed medium toys
Experimenting with the children.We use corrugated boards and tied to plastic stands, and we have a 3 storey platform.
I was analysing as part of my person project family units.I strongly believe that when husbands and wives have a strong relationship,shared values and common goals have less conflicts.
Love is time.Do things together.When going through shared experiences, there is greater understanding support.
I was talking to a youth, and she said that after dinner, the dad will go to his room, the mum will watch korean movies online, and she will go to her room to watch anime online.
How much time are you spending with your husband or wife this week?
Relax..kinda like flying a kite. .pull…release…pull..release…
Reframing your Mind
My son excitedly showed me his drawing.”Nice or not? You want to show your friends?”He asked.
I love my son and many things about him.When I took a photo, he was excited and exclaim”Wow…exactly the same”.
We call a rock a rock.In some cases, we can reframe our mind see the picture.
A highly intelligent lecturer talked about a boy who was reared by wolves.According to experts, his mind could not learn new languages and certain new things.
I was shocked.I look at Nikki Tay of Steady Steps in Songapore, Reuven Feureinstein of Israel and wondered their reactions to these statements.
Garbage in garbage out.However,garbage can be recycled. Thus,I think back of the unemployed man for 4 years.6 months of handholding and he was able to secure a job.He has his difficulties,but we persevered on and he stayed on the job.
A hammer cannot screw a screw,and a plier cannot hammer in a nail. Thus,wrong tools and unsuitable processes.
Thus,let us reexamine before we say some things cannot be fixed.