Parental love is displayed in disciplining the children responsibly (cf Pro 19:18; 20:11; 22:6,15; 23:13,14; 29:15,17). It is reflected in the divine discipline for spiritual children that God Himself exercises (Heb 12:5-11). Corporal discipline for unruly children in ancient Israel was taken for granted. There is simply no point in “sugar-coating” this teaching, in attempting to substitute “reasoning with the child” in every instance where “discipline” or “the rod” occurs. Elsewhere in the Law of Moses the possibility of the most extreme sanction imaginable is also envisioned for the hopelessly wayward son (Exo 21:17; Lev 20:9). If such could even be contemplated, as the remotest possibility in Israel, then what parent could blithely stop short of exerting real physical force — if required — to make his or her point to the disobedient child?
The irony today is that, while modern child psychologists explain how such “punishment” is always a form of “child abuse”, the products of such permissive, or “enlightened”, child-rearing are killing one another AND DYING all around them — through their own unchecked tendencies to violence, and through all the terrible choices they have made, such as addictions and drug-dealing and crime and sexual promiscuity!
It must be added here, in haste, that there IS such a thing as “child abuse”, but the remedy for such abuse (when such abuse does exist) is not for everyone else to refrain from ALL corporal punishment, and never to lay a hand upon a child! To argue for this sort of parenting because some parents have beaten and physically abused their children is equivalent to arguing that parents should (a) starve their children because there is such a thing as gluttony, (b) “force-feed” their children encyclopedias and unabridged dictionaries because there is ignorance in the world, or (c) lock them in their rooms because there is such a thing as bad company!
"To any Christian who declares that child training by this principle of physical punishment is out-of-date, an unsaved man has the right to say that salvation by the blood of Christ is also out-of-date. It is a very serious thing to tamper with these clear principles of the Word of God… Christians must remember that, since these are revealed principles, they must be obeyed regardless of the modern theories and findings of men. As long as natural psychology and progressive education refuse to recognize the Biblical teaching of the total depravity of every person born into this world, their guiding principles cannot be safe" (CC Ryrie, BibSac 109:436:351).
The powerful verbs “hates” and “loves” stress the point — hating a son probably means, in effect, abandoning or rejecting him. For the general Biblical teaching on this, see Eph 6:4 and Heb 12:5-11; see Pro 4:3,4,10,11 for the balanced tenderness. Too much lenience and too much harsh discipline are equally productive of trouble. The balance comes when the child has room to grow while learning the limits.
HE WHO SPARES THE ROD: “Spares” is Heb “chasak” — to restrain or withhold. “Rod” is “shebet”, which refers to the staff of the shepherd; the sheep went under as they were counted (Psa 23:4; Mic 7:14). As here, the rod of authority of the educator (2Sa 7:14; Psa 89:32) was also called “shebet”. The sw came to represent the authority or power of the one in charge. A king’s royal “shebet”, or rod (as in Gen 49:10), was the means of wielding righteousness and justice (cf Psa 2:9,10; 45:6,7; Num 24:17). How fitting, in the Hebrew, that the “rod” of discipline is also the “scepter” of kingship: God has given to kings the “divine right” to rule and punish; as one old philosopher put it concisely, but practically poetically: “The rod came down from heaven!”
HATES HIS SON: This sounds extreme and — quite reasonably — ought to be read “acts AS IF he hated his son” (cf Pro 3:12; 8:36). While feelings, and sentiments, and verbal professions, may be all in the direction of “love”, if the conduct (toward children in this instance, but toward all men or even God Himself in other instances) gives the lie to the profession of such love, then the Divine judgment on the matter is: ‘You do not REALLY love [your child, your neighbor, or your God] at all. But rather, it may be inferred that — in a subconscious, take-it-or-leave-it, off-hand way — you REALLY hate [your child, your neighbor, or your God]!’ Love is an action; it is not an emotion! (More generally, cp the message of Joh 14:15: “IF you love me, you will obey what I command.” And Joh 15:14: “You are my friends IF you do what I command.”)
BUT HE WHO LOVES HIM IS CAREFUL TO DISCIPLINE HIM: “Is careful” is the verb “shahar”: “to be diligent; to do something early” (BDB 1007). Thus “whoever loves him discipines him early on” (WBC) — ie, “early on in his life” (cf Pro 1:28; 8:17, noting the “early” in the AV)! Thus Delitzsch cites old rabbis to the point that the Hebrew “does not denote the early morning of the day… but the morning of life.” He then cites the old Hebrew proverb: “The earlier the fruit, the better the training.” And he finishes with his own comments: “A father who truly wishes well to his son keeps him betimes under strict discipline, to give him while he is yet capable of being influenced the right direction, and to allow no errors to root themselves in him; but he who is indulgent toward his child when he ought to be strict, acts as if he really wished his ruin.”
Failure to hear and respond positively to instruction leads to discipline and/or punishment. Sinners in general can expect the “rod” of serious discipline (Pro 15:10; Jer 30:14), as can fools in particular (Pro 13:18; 16:22). Discipline, however, has a beneficial and restorative purpose. It arises out of true love (as here), even if the disobedient hate it (Pro 5:12). Those who truly love will not withhold such discipline (Pro 23:13). The disciplined life is the ideal, one that seeks after God and upholds standards of justice and fairness (Pro 1:3). It takes the form of correction (Pro 6:23) or rebuke (Pro 3:11), whether by God or other people, and it may be administered through experience — the “school of hard knocks” (Pro 24:32) — or by the application of the rod, whether literal or figurative (Pro 22:15).
DISCIPLINE: Heb “muwcar” (see Pro 12:1n).
"The child that is wisely chastened comes to love the very hand that used the rod. Children must be taught that all things are not theirs, that the world is a place for discipline, and that all life is valuable only in proportion as it has been refined and strengthened by patient endurance. Let no merely cruel man take encouragement from these words to use the rod without measure, and to use it merely for the sake of showing his animal strength. That is not the teaching of the passage. The chastening is to be with measure, is to be timely, is to have some proportion to the offence that is visited, and is to give more pain to the inflicter of the punishment than to its receiver. Great wisdom is required in the use of the rod. The rod has to be used upon every man sooner or later; we cannot escape chastisement: we must be made to feel that the world is not all ours, that there are rights and interests to be respected besides those which we ourselves claim: the sooner that lesson can be instilled into the mind the better; if it can be wrought into the heart and memory of childhood it will save innumerable anxieties and disappointments in all after-life" (Parker, BI).
"Holden [writes Adam Clarke] makes some sensible observations on this passage: ‘By the neglect of early correction the desires (passions) obtain ascendancy; the temper becomes irascible, peevish, querulous. Pride is nourished, humility destroyed, and by the habit of indulgence the mind is incapacitated to bear with firmness and equanimity the cares and sorrows, the checks and disappointments, which flesh is heir to.’ "
" ‘Spare the rod and spoil the child’ is a saying known to everyone. Solomon was even more definite. He declared that a man who spared the rod hated his son. It is hardly possible to think of anything more emphatic… In interpreting ‘the dark sayings of the wise’, however, we must not always insist on the literal even where the literal could easily be applied. No one would take this reference to hatred in a literal sense, for it is quite certain that a destructive leniency is usually the expression of a genuine but foolish love. The saying means that the effect of parental weakness is so bad that it is akin to hatred in its effects even though love is the cause of it. The saying is intelligible and forceful but not strictly literal. Why then insist on nothing but an actual rod and physical pain in the other part of the saying? Correction may be made by word and look and in a hundred different manipulations of circumstances, some of which may be more effective than the rod, although even that may sometimes be necessary" (Islip Collyer; see Lesson, Prov, parents and children.)
One in two S’pore residents value money, career over health: poll
Career advancement, money and looks.
Just over half of the respondents in a local poll named these as their greatest priorities in life instead of their health.
The poll, conducted by Pfizer in August, surveyed 214 local residents for their understanding of hypertension (high blood pressure) and hyperlipidemia (high cholesterol levels) ahead of World Heart Day on Thursday.
When asked about their greatest priority, 54.7 per cent of respondents did not view health as their top pick. Three in 10 said money came first and one in five felt career advancement was more important, findings showed.
Only one in five respondents ranked heart disease to be their greatest health concern despite the disease being the leading cause of death worldwide according to the World Health Organisation.
The poll also found a lack of knowledge of heart disease with only 20.6 per cent of respondents aware that it is the leading cause of death among women here. Most mistakenly believed that breast or cervical cancer claim more lives.
Surprisingly, respondents with existing cardiovascular risk factors fared worse than their healthier counterparts in the basic understanding of high blood pressure and cholesterol levels. Among the respondents with high blood pressure and high cholesterol levels, only half said health and well-being was their greatest priority.
Almost all respondents were aware of the causes of heart disease but about two in three admitted they had not taken enough measures to protect themselves against heart disease. Over 30 per cent of respondents did not adopt any measures to reduce the risks of heart disease such as exercising regularly, adopting a healthy diet, reducing the intake of alcohol or cutting down on cigarettes.
“Lifestyle changes and medication both play a role in the successful management of cardiovascular risk factors such as hypertension and hyperlipidemia,” said Dr Eric Hong, consultant cardiologist of EH Heart Specialist at Mount Elizabeth Medical Centre. “For this year’s World Heart Day, I hope Singaporeans will take a moment to think about our hearts, and how to be better informed about our own and our families’ heart health.”
A story of an old lady who works daily from 9 to 5 as a cleaner. It is a manual job and physically tiring. On Sundays, she goes to church, although she was not well learned and may not understand all of the messages.
Some people asked her why not rest, since she is physically tired. Why go to church? She replied, ” Church allows me to be filled, to learn and to energise, and is food for another week.”
While my work is not really manual, sometimes it is mentally or emotionally taxing, and sometimes, I may go home and vent my frustrations to my kids or wife, although they are innocent. I am angry at myself, and though I try to control it, it does happen occassionally.
To me, spiritual is God’s way of telling us His expectations, and laying down His boundaries. At times, I am frustrated that I cannot do better or get what I expected, but the Bible and God’s grace is all sufficient.
Come to Me, He said. When we are tired and weary, do we turn to liquor, woman or television and/or Internet, or do we go to Him? Jehovah Jireh. The Lord provideth.
A dark period when it is fun to dress as ghouls and elves, and have fun in the process.
In the 1980s, when Dungeons and dragons was popular, children play diced games with different scenarios, where the dungeon master is Satan himself. Fantasy alore, people start reading up and summoning spirits.
Some people were possessed by spirits, and to repair the damage was tough. Now, the destructive cycle appears again, and only people such as the CEO of Singapore Zoological Gardens dare to say NO. Family friendly places are for kids and parents to see God’s creations, the diversity of birds, mammals, reptiles and amphibians.
When I hear certain MPs talked excitedly, on a personal note, I shake my head. Choice, consequences. After Crazy horse, after 2 casinos, how much lower can we sink into the quicksand? Answer is, we can sink much lower. Haiz…..
"Daddy, teacher Maureen is with us last day tomorrow." My 6 year old daughter, Charlotte tells me this morning. She had a sad look.
I remember talking many a time with this Philipines teacher, a chirpy lady who enjoys working with kids and was a primary school teacher back in her country. Not only does she enjoy her work, she is well trained in it.
It is not easy to be a teacher. I once saw a pre-school teacher who told me that she was responsible for the kids. She too did a very good job. I added that schools can hire teachers, and parents pay for this service, but it is a bonus that good teachers comes in, to equip, guide and mentor the children.
To Teacher Maureen, thank you for taking care of Charlotte and Aaron. Wishing you well in your endeavours, personal and professional. Shalom.
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It has been hazy the last few days. The indonesians have been burning rainforest, to clear the trees and as a means to fertilise the soil. While this has been done many years and many people are angry, there is little to be done. The burning is the cheap way to clear the land, and probably the only way they can afford to, as many are still very poor, financially. The downside is the haze, which has a effect on health, and I was shocked when when I visited a local hospital and saw many kids with asthma hospitalised when the haze was bad.
The rain came down and it helps to bring down the soot from the air. The rain cools the place, and provide fluid for plants and animals. In fact, I enjoy the rain and used to walk in the rain when young.It is a great blessing to have rain.
I came back close to 11.15pm. Most of the time, my kids are asleep. Some days, when I am at home at nights, I will study and play with them, and before sleeping, will read devotions and sing to them.
Tonight, while my wife and daughter are fast asleep, I unlock the door and my son walk towards me with his two bolsters.”papa, sing for me itsy bitsy spider and min tian hui ken hao ( a better tomorrrow).” I was tired but the sight of my son and he actually wanted to hear my singing at night took away all the tiredness. As I put him to bed, I sing the two songs, with two more bonuses from a father to his son.